Last week in church I gave a talk about finding peace in our lives. I really was impressed that I have learned a lot about finding peace and it has helped be happy. I decided to post the talk I gave:
I took a logic class my freshman year at San Jose State and loved it even though I hardly understood any of the lectures (and I hardly remember the ones I did understand). But I do remember the most simplistic logical sentence. If A, then B. A is true, therefore B is true also.
Here’s that statement related to a topic I firmly believe in: If I am seeking peace in my life, then I need to put some sort of effort in gaining peace in my life.
I’m going to make a broad statement and say that we are all searching for peace in our lives. But since we are all in different stages in our lives and looking for different things, I can only speak for myself. So I can say yes A is true: I am seeking peace in my life, and therefore B is also true: I am required to put some sort of effort into gaining peace. We can even see this in the scriptures:
Doctrine and Covenants 59:23 says, ‘but learn that he who doeth the works of righteousness shall receive his reward, even peace in this world…” Peace is a reward for righteousness, but in order to receive that peace, we must live righteously, meaning we have to do our part. We can have peace in our lives, Heavenly Father wants us to have peace in our lives.
Elder Wirthlin said that, “peace is more than a lofty ideal. It is a practical principle that, with conscious effort, can become a normal part of our lives as we deal with matters both large and small.” We will have peace in our lives if we work at it.
Having peace in my life is something I’ve had to work at also. A few ways I have found increased peace in my life are:
- Have a positive attitude
- Recognize the blessings that I receive come from God/ humility
- Pray
- Strengthen my relationship with the Savior
These are by no means the only ways to have peace in our lives, but they are the most pertinent to me, and the ones I have a testimony about. You can call it my soap box.
1. Have a positive attitude.
It is easy to get caught up in the negative of a situation because it seems so apparent. For example, I realized yesterday something interesting about myself while driving back from DC. I like to travel with music on when I’m alone (even if it’s low) because that allows myself to think. If I’m in the car with silence it’s too easy to for me to pay attention to everyone else’s driving and I get road rage. It was easy for me to focus on the negative around me when I wasn’t trying to think of something nice or sing along to the music.
Also, being grateful and appreciating the situation we are in and looking for the good in life in hard times. It’s not the ideal goal for all of us to stay in this single’s ward. Because I’m talking about my goals and only assuming that yours are similar, my goal is to get married and move on with my life. But I have learned to take advantage of the opportunities I have here that I can only have being single. For example, moving to Atlanta, going on sporadic weekend trips, not being accountable to somebody else for my finances. I’m excited to take the marriage step when it comes, but there is so much I can learn right here and right now while I’ve been given this opportunity to be single and get to know myself better.
Along those lines, it is important for me to surround myself in love. I do things that make me happy, have pictures on my wall at home of things I have done with my family, and pictures of my family. I don’t love my internship at the moment, but I love the girls I am with. It is important to look for the good in the situations I am given and don’t dwell on the negative, always wishing my circumstances would change.
2. Recognize the blessings that I receive come from God/ humility
Alma 5:40 says, ‘whatsoever is good cometh from God.’
I am continually reminded how blessed I am. Going back to keeping a positive attitude and looking for the good in a situation, I see all of the positive things in my life as blessings from God.
When I recognize the blessings in my life, I say a little prayer of thanks to my Heavenly Father for being mindful of me. To me, this is a reinforcing principle, that when we show gratitude for the blessings we receive then we receive more blessings.
3. Pray
Pray for the strength to endure, for faith and fortitude to face what sometimes must be faced.
From Chrissy Fin: It was a powerful lesson that made me re-evaluate my prayers and how I am allowing myself to become to my Father in Heaven. The more mighty my prayer, the stronger the connection. However, the weaker prayers cause a distance in the connection. It is completely up to us on how we want that relationship with our Father in Heaven to be. That is why consistency is so vital. I have a strong testimony about prayer and the power in mighty prayer. As we pray we are showing faith and through that faith miracles come.
A couple of years ago I was facing a trial that seemed to overtake me in every way. I was not myself, and I was feeling really depressed. It seemed to go on forever to a mild degree. I knew it wasn’t healthy and I knew that I wasn’t happy and didn’t have peace in my life. I prayed a lot to the Lord to remove the pain and sorrow, but I wasn’t willing to do anything about it to get myself out of the situation. Finally my really good friend said to me that I have to decide that I’m going to be happy, and I have to take initiative. Asking the Lord for help was only part of the solution.
I have since learned that when I’m facing a trial to ask the Lord to help me bear the trial with an attitude of ‘what can I learn from this experience?’ and ‘what can I do to bear this trial with a positive attitude?’ It has changed my prayers, and has made me draw closer to the Lord when I need him the most.
4. Strengthen my relationship with the Savior
Elder Wirthlin said that, “attaining harmony within ourselves depends upon our relationship with our Savior and Redeemer, Jesus Christ, and our willingness to emulate Him by living the principles He has given us. During the Passover feast, the Savior taught His disciples: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” (John 14:27).”
How do we strengthen our relationship with the Savior?
I strengthen my relationship with Him by reading the scriptures; keeping sacred covenants of baptism and temple covenants; repenting of sins I have committed, and giving up my favorite sins.
On those lines Elder Scott said, “pondering the grandeur of the Atonement evokes the most profound feelings of awe, immense gratitude and deep humility. Those impressions can provide you powerful motivation to keep His commandments and consistently repent of errors for greater peace and happiness.”
As we become familiar with the atonement and learn how the atonement can be applied to our lives in every way, then we recommit ourselves to living the gospel and in return gain peace and happiness.
My and your relationship with the Savior is the most important key to having peace in our lives. By living by the principles He teaches and emulating His characteristics, we will receive the most spectacular gifts of peace and even more than that is eternal life.
I’ll just close with this comment by Elder Holland and a scripture:
“Whoever we are and whatever our problems, his response is always the same, forever: ‘Come unto me.’ Learn of me and follow me, and in the process I will give you answers to your prayers and rest to your souls.”
“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world” (John 16:33).
These are powerful blessings and promises of which I have a testimony. We know the Lord wants us to have peace in our lives, but we cannot expect him to give us peace unless we are willing to do our part.